Part 5: The Power of Not Knowing It All

Here’s a little truth bomb for you:

• You can’t “self-love” your way out of every problem on your own.

• I don’t care how many Pinterest quotes you’ve read — there is zero shame in saying,

• “I don’t know how to do this. I need help.”

In fact, I’d argue that learning to ask for help is one of the most self-loving things you can do.

When I finally admitted I didn’t have all the answers, the game changed.

That’s when I started building my A-Team.

The Professionals Who Helped Me Rebuild

🩺 Medical Professionals

Getting my health markers under control was a turning point. The doctors and medical team who walked with me didn’t just treat numbers on a chart—they reminded me that my body was worth caring for. Their accountability gave me structure, but more than that, they helped me see my health as an act of self-respect instead of punishment.

💪 Fitness, Training & Nutrition Coaches

There’s so much noise out there about diets and quick fixes. My coaches—KD, Darin, and Jess—cut through all of that and gave me plans tailored for me. Having people in my corner who believed in my strength even when I didn’t was life-changing. They taught me that fueling and moving my body isn’t about chasing skinny—it’s about honoring the vessel I live in. And best yet, they never held back on being brutally honest, even when I didn't like what they were saying. Check out KD's 6-week challenge here.

🛍 Clothing Stylists

Confidence isn’t just internal; sometimes it starts with slipping into something that makes you feel like you. Ciara, you’ve never led me astray in style. Even though I’ve been holding off until I hit certain goals, you reminded me that fashion can be a form of self-love—an outward reflection of the woman I’m becoming. Check her available styles here - better yet, go visit her if you are in Reno!

🔥 Cupping Therapist

Healing doesn’t just happen in the mind—it happens in the body, too. Janine, you are a magician. Through cupping, you helped me release pain, move stuck energy, and heal on levels I didn’t even realize needed attention. Those sessions reminded me that physical and emotional healing are deeply connected.

🧠 Therapists

Some of the hardest work I’ve done hasn’t been visible to anyone else. Paige, you gave me a safe space to lay it all down—the ugly, the shame, the lies I believed. Some of what we worked through is too sacred for these pages, but the impact is undeniable. Therapy gave me the tools to rebuild from the ground up, and I’ll never stop being grateful.

✨ These professionals became part of my circle of healing. They held me accountable, lifted me when I couldn’t stand on my own, and gave me tools to reclaim my life. They were reminders that asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.

The Teachers Who Poure

d Into Me

Books that cracked something open:

📖 The Let Them Theory – Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins has a gift for making mindset shifts feel simple yet powerful. Her “Let Them Theory” gave me permission to stop controlling other people’s opinions and actions. Instead of bending myself to fit their expectations, I learned to breathe, let them do what they’re going to do, and focus on my own peace. This was a huge step in loosening the grip of self-loathing—I no longer needed everyone’s approval to feel worthy.

📖 Be the Prize – Kim Potsel

This book is bold, sassy, and unapologetic—exactly the wake-up call I needed. Kim Potsel reminds women that we don’t have to beg for crumbs of attention; we are the prize. Reading it shook me out of patterns of chasing validation. It helped me remember that self-love isn’t arrogance—it’s recognizing your own value and refusing to settle for less.

📖 Try Softer – Aundi Kolber

Aundi Kolber’s words wrapped around me like a gentle hug. “Try Softer” taught me that healing doesn’t come from pushing harder or punishing myself into change—it comes from compassion, patience, and care. This book shifted how I treated myself, helping me turn down the harsh inner critic and invite in kindness.

📖 Love Defined – Kristen Clark & Bethany Beal

This one grounded me spiritually. Kristen and Bethany talk about love from a faith-based lens, reminding me that love is more than romance—it’s identity, service, and connection. For me, this book softened the parts of me that were still holding bitterness. It helped me see love not as something to earn, but as something I already carry and can give freely.

📖 This Is Me Letting You Go – Heidi Priebe

Priebe’s writing is raw, honest, and relatable. This book walked with me through some of the hardest moments of release—relationships, expectations, old versions of myself. It made me realize that letting go is not weakness, it’s strength. And with every goodbye, I opened space for deeper self-acceptance and peace.

📖 Fierce Woman: The Power of a Soft Warrior – Holley Gerth

Holley Gerth reframed “strength” for me. Being fierce doesn’t always mean being loud, hard, or unyielding—it can look like gentleness, softness, and showing up with heart. This book helped me embrace my femininity as a strength instead of a liability. It gave me language for what I was becoming: a soft warrior who can be both vulnerable and unshakable.

✨ Together, these books became stepping stones on my journey—reminding me that worthiness, love, and confidence were never things to chase outside of myself, but treasures I could uncover within.

Podcasts that kept me going:

🎙 God is Within Her

This podcast reminded me that my worth is unshakable. Even when I doubted myself or struggled with body image, it pointed me back to truth. Season 1, Episode 3—“Body Image”—was one I played on repeat. The practical guidance and faith-filled encouragement helped me begin untangling shame around my body and step into the kind of self-love rooted in grace, not perfection.

🎙 Infinite Devotions

What drew me in was how this podcast explores the beauty of masculine and feminine energy through a lens that feels both unconventional and deeply spiritual. Their conversations about Dom/sub dynamics might sound taboo to some, but the parallels to biblical marriage callings are undeniable. Watching their love unfold gave me hope, but even more powerful was Dawn’s vulnerability. Her openness taught me to see my own softness and honesty as strength, not weakness—a turning point in embracing my whole self.

🎙 Daigle Bites

Did you think I got through my darkest nights without Lauren Daigle in my ears? Her music has always spoken to the deepest part of my soul, and her podcast carries that same resonance. Daigle Bites struck chords of hope and healing, reminding me that even in pain, beauty can break through. Listening gave me words for feelings I couldn’t name—and slowly, light seeped into places I thought would always stay dark.

✨ Just like the books, these podcasts became companions on my healing path. They weren’t just background noise; they were lifelines—reminders that faith, vulnerability, and music can transform the way we see ourselves.

The Power in Letting Others Help!

Old me thought asking for help meant I was weak.

Now? I know it means I’m wise enough to stop wasting time spinning my wheels.

I’m not out here trying to be an expert in everything — I’m out here trying to live my life well.

And if that means investing in people who know what I don’t?

Sign me the hell up.

Part 6 — if you’re ready for it — could be your rally cry.

The unapologetic “here’s what I know for sure” end to this series that ties all six parts together and leaves readers feeling like they’ve just been handed permission to start their own rebuild.

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Cheers,

Regina